WHAT I LEARNT ABOUT BEING AN ONLY CHILD WHEN I BECAME AN ADULT. (THE CONCLUDING STORY)📜

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 WHAT I LEARNT ABOUT BEING AN ONLY CHILD WHEN I BECAME AN ADULT. (THE CONCLUDING STORY)📜

George Oluwatomilayo

☝'A Modern Ancient Lady'💎,TV Presenter & Producer Rythme FM Lagos 🎬📺/Model📸

 These days, I still appreciate the closeness that I have with my parents, especially after recently making the move closer to home. I’m incredibly thankful that I’m now able to see them on a weekly basis

and visit on any given weekend, being only an hour away. But since I’ve grown older and my relationships with my family members have evolved, I’ve also become increasingly aware of what it means to be an only child as an adult. Here are a few things I’ve learned about transitioning from a carefree only child mentality to an adulthood that simply doesn’t include siblings.

 LOYALTY IS INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT TO ME.

 Like many people, I’m someone that craves deeper connections and intimacy from my friendships. In the absence of siblings, these friendships have become an extended family who I’ve leaned on for support just as much as my actual family. That being said, It took me a while to learn the value of quality versus quantity. I was expecting the same amount of loyalty from a new friend as I did from someone I’d maintained a close

relationship with for five years. This usually led to feelings of confusion, hurt, and anger on my behalf — I never quite understood why others didn’t take friendships as seriously as I did in the beginning. Fortunately, I’m now in a place where I can recognize and cherish my loyal friendships, and understand that new ones take time to evolve into what I’ve built with others.

 YOUR INDEPENDENCE IS A BLESSING AND A CURSE.

 In my experience, one of the most common traits of an only child (in addition to being spoiled, okay fine) is a strong sense of independence and an eagerness to explore life outside of the parental threshold. This is something that has served me in a variety of ways — I’ve always deeply valued and protected my alone time, even when I’m in a committed relationship. I’ve lived alone for the better part of seven years, which has been incredibly rewarding in ways I never would’ve anticipated.

But this sense of independence that I’ve become so proud of has also created certain setbacks along the way.

 I’m a writer and strive to communicate as openly as possible, but sometimes I still struggle to bring my deepest feelings and fears to the surface. Saying them out loud or broaching the topic with others can feel like I’m incapable of handling things on my own, even though when I know that’s not the case. It’s taken a while, but I’ve finally learned that asking for help or just someone to listen is more a testament to my strength than an admission of defeat.

 Can you relate to being an only child? What have you learned?

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